Is Your Spouse Cheating On You?

The worst thing that can happy to any relationship is to find out that your spouse is cheating.  It may begin innocently, with a wife finding something lying around that her husband dropped, and she’ll start to wonder.  Many time (and I hope this is true for you) it will turn out to be innocent, and easily explained; other times the reverse is true.  Many husbands, thinking about what they may have left behind (usually by accident), may believe that their wives are naïve and won’t figure out what it means, most women are not naïve and their relationship is VERY important to them.  If you’re a woman and believe that your husband might be cheating, there are a few points to keep in mind.  Doing so will allow you to determine if there IS ACTUALLY suspicious activity happening and then you’ll be able to take the (if necessary) appropriate action.

Have you found any phone numbers in his pockets or left lying on his desk?  When looking at the phone bills, have you seen any numbers that cannot be explained?  If you do find this evidence, you’ll know (or at least suspect) that is it talking regularly to someone else.  Now this in itself does not mean he is cheating, however you can wonder if this is a CHANGE in his behavior, couple this with his not acting normal, and you can bet that something is different.

Does he often (which is a break in routine) have to go out of town on business trips?  Often a man (believing his wife won’t catch on) will say the trip is for business; but is it?  The same is true if he (too often) says he has to work late at the office.  This isn’t written to cause you to be suspicious but DO check to see if he is actually busy or involved with a made up story.

What about appearance, has it suddenly become VERY important to him, when before he didn’t seem to care?  Has he run up a bill buying new clothes, dressing to the “nines” and perhaps having his hair cut by a stylist?  Something may be going on.  And what about his smell… and no I’m not talking about his gym socks, but what about the NEW cologne he’s wearing?  Wonder why he is “all of a sudden” trying different colognes?

If you’re fairly certain that something IS happening, then check the odometer on his car.  You’ll want to know the round trip distance to work and back home, then check to be sure there aren’t a large number of extra miles clocked up.  If there are, then you’ll have to wonder where he’s been driving.  Knowing this, don’t go for a BIG CONFRANTATION; rather ask kindly about his day and where he might have gone.  If he tells you about a quick trip, congrats, you’re married to a good man.  If instead he says that all was the same, then you’ll know he’s hiding something.  A lie here may be a definitive clue that he’s lying about something else also.

In today’s technology world, you can visit certain websites certain websites, enter a phone number and quickly received information about the person who the number belongs to; including the name, address, and more.  VERY helping when you find (sorry if you did) those strange numbers in his pockets or on the cell phone bill.  You’re in an information gathering stage and having this data, will help you greatly if and when a confrontation is necessary.  I hope your marriage is successful, but DO NOT let him think he get away with cheating.  Find out who that number belongs to and who might be taking up his time, let’s hope it completely innocent.